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Why You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty About Putting You First in 2020

plannerNot only is it a new year, but also a new decade. It is a great time for us to do some new things in our lives. One area that I notice women often have a hard time with, is focusing on themselves. There is a feeling of guilt whenever they take some time to do something just for them. They think about all of the things that they could be doing and they never get around to taking the time for them. 

But 2020 should find you doing something different. Time out for those feelings of guilt. You are worth it and you should be at peace when you want to spend time doing something you want to do, instead of catering to others. I know it might be hard for some of you, but come on…you can do it. You have to realize that you need to be replenished yourself if you are going to continue to function at an optimal level for others. If you are one of those women who say, “I just don’t have time to…” then this is for you.  If you are burned out or frustrated, you really are no good to the people you want to be great for.

Below, see my list of guilt-free tips:


  1. museumDecide what it is you want to do – You might want to go to the gym, or take a yoga class. Maybe you want to spend a Saturday at the museum, minus the children. Whatever it is, sit down and make a list of all of the things you want to do, but always seem to put off, because there never seems to be enough time.
  2. Make the time in your life and on your calendar– This is so important. So often as women we don’t make the time for us. If there is a choice of doing something we want to do or doing something for someone else, we often choose the someone else option. But put it on your calendar in ink and refuse to make a change
  3. Make yourself a priority – It’s your time right now. You have pushed you off of your list long enough. Stop saying yes when you should be saying no. Start off slow by scheduling a small amount of time just for you. Increase it as you become more comfortable.
  4. Get an accountability partner – ..and keep each other accountable for finding “me” time every day.

It may seem uncomfortable at first, but as you work at it every day it will become easier. And you will find yourself enjoying life so much more.

Conchetta JonesConchetta Jones, a Shazzy Fitness guest blogger, is a Certified Life Coach, personalizing in personal development and confidence, and founder and CEO of "She's All That!" - a personal development and mentoring organization for girls and Owner of Confident Woman She's Alll That! - a lifestyle company for women. She loves motivating and inspiring women and girls to step out of the box that society puts them in and live life on their own terms.



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